My oldest two children went immediately to their cribs. We spent many sleepless weeks stumbling to the nursery, feeding, and trying to go back asleep. One night I was so desperate for a few hours of undisturbed sleep that I lied to Husband and told him that it was his turn to take care of the baby. Poor thing believed me and took that round, too.
Our youngest had a choking/gagging spell in the hospital from mucus that scared us, nurse in the room included. Husband suggested that we let her sleep in her bassinet in the room with us. I had read a lot of information on co-sleeping, so it seemed like a great idea.
A benefit of co-sleeping is that the babies hardly ever startle during sleep and rarely cry during the night. Solo sleepers tend to startle more and spend 4x the number of minutes crying. The startling and crying causes a release of adrenaline, which ultimately interferes with restful sleep and leads to long term sleep anxiety.
Here’s where the co-sleeping thing goes off-track. It didn’t work as I planned. Goob didn’t like her bassinet. It’s used to store my iPad and lotion now. She was the most content sleeping on me or beside me. Because of that, I had so many sleepless nights overwhelmed with guilt between doing what people warned against and what Goob wanted. Even taking the multiple precautions recommended for safe bed-sharing, I couldn’t stop worrying. I don’t drink, smoke, or take medications. I breastfed exclusively. I removed heavy blankets and thick pillows from the bed. No matter what I did, there was still that uncertainty and what if.
Finally, I searched Amazon and came across the SwaddleMe By Your Side Sleeper. It goes in the bed and wasn’t as awkward to comfort the baby as reaching into the bassinet was. Goob could turn her head and see me right beside her. I could even snuggle close to the sleeper and put my arm around her. I slept so much better knowing the baby was right beside me and was safe there. It was our perfect solution to having the close comfort of bed sharing/co-sleeping as well as keeping her safe and secure.
For those wanting or needing to co-sleep, I highly recommend it. For those wanting to bed-share, I definitely recommend it.